What is a session like?
A session begins with a short conversation where we go over any last-minute details or questions. Then the session begins, be it role-play, real-life discipline for real-life transgressions, or spanking for spanking’s sake. The details will be specific to your situation. For a better idea, go to the session page or read through client testimonials for what some others have experienced.
How long is a session?
Sessions can be scheduled for a minimum of one hour, or up to three hours, in half-hour increments. Generally speaking, once the session begins, our time cannot extend, so put some thought into how long of a session you’d like to have.
Are you really going to spank me for an hour straight?
Your time includes any pre-spanking arrangements or discussion, role-play or scolding as needed, and aftercare. I don’t know many who could handle an hour-long straight spanking.
Is spanking sexual?
I can’t answer that question for you. For some, spanking is a part of their sexuality, and has a feeling of release akin to that of sexual release; arousal and climax can also be a natural extension of spanking for these individuals. For others, this is a psychological need, not explicitly connected to their sexuality. For others still, spanking has no relation whatsoever to their sexuality, and they see this as a need for them to grow and stop bad behavior.
I have clients, both men and women, who climax during sessions. While this is something I permit, I never assist in any way, shape or form: I only provide discipline. If you believe you might climax during session, this is something we must discuss prior to meeting.
Can I record our session with audio or video?
Do you always spank on the bare bottom?
Nearly always. Exceptions have been made in the past because of client preference. Let me know what your concerns are when we are setting up the session.
How hard do you spank?
All my spankings are tempered to the recipient. I am skilled, and comfortable, spanking to any range of pain and skin tolerances. That being said, my spankings are designed to be punishing, but not torturous.
In a particularly heavy session, is bleeding allowed?
Yes. The seeping or thin blood that can be a byproduct of heavy wooden paddle usage does not cross my limits. Because heavier play may involve some bleeding, I have and make good use of a variety of materials and methods to completely sterilize anything touched by blood. My hard limit is open, deep, freely bleeding wounds, the kind you might see from a particularly brutal caning, for example.
I will mention that only a small percentage of my sessions involve the kind of heavier play in which bleeding would even begin to be an issue. I am comfortable and capable of operating within anyone’s pain tolerance.
If you’d like to see examples of a harder session, click here (trigger warning!).
Can you punish me for a real-life indiscretion?
Yes. I often see people who need discipline for real-life failings; often this is takes the form of procrastination, failing to go to the gym, forgetting to pay bills on time, not keeping their dwelling clean, or poor school or work performance. There are a variety of reasons why a person might need punishment, and spanking is a wonderful treatment! If you’re serious about discipline as a tool for self-improvement, learn more here.
Can you spank without marks?
Short answer: most likely.
Long answer: It depends on your skin, age, experience, and tolerance, as well as the positions, implements, and intensity used in session. I will do my best to accommodate a need for no marks if needed. That being said, there is always a possibility marks can appear later. The usual rule of thumb is that if you sunburn easily, you’ll mark easily. And no, scientifically speaking, arnica does nothing.
Do you use a safe word?
My spankings are REAL. As such, I do not use safe words as a rule. Your punishment is not real if you can control it or end it at any time. But, as I explained above, I’m not a sadist. This should be punishment, and not torture. To that end, I will carefully watch you and make sure I’m not pushing you past what you can take.
Oftentimes, first-time spankees are shocked by what they can take, and, had they been given the option of ‘safe word’-ing out earlier, they never would have gotten the catharsis they’re seeking. This is about losing that control you have in your daily life. That can’t happen if you can end the spanking on a whim.
What positions do you use for spanking?
Over the knee is my favorite, with an OTK leg-lock as a second. I use other OTK-arranged positions, and positions using props like a bed, a chair or a wall, and free-standing positions. If there’s a particular position you’d like to try, do let me know.
What sort of non-spanking discipline do you use?
I find that lecturing, line-writing, corner-time, and mouth-soaping are delightfully effective punishments. With corner-time, I enjoy incorporating ear-marching; other punishments may include chores or errands, or being locked in a dark closet to stew. For particularly naughty little dears, I find that corner time while kneeling on a broomstick has a startling degree of efficacy!
I have also used humiliation and scolding in a punishment context.
Do you lecture or scold?
Do you yell or get angry?
I may get angry in a context of discipline or role-play, but always a controlled anger. I never yell; it’s not my way.
Do you do outcall?
Can I bring someone to watch me be spanked?
It depends on the person, but usually yes. Some of my favorite sessions have been with the subject’s partner watching and giving a counterpoint to the subject’s excuses! If you’d like to have another provider watch me spank you, read the double sessions section of the FAQ. If you’d like to have an independent witness, I may be able to provide one; see witnesses section of the FAQ.
What’s your favorite role play?
I enjoy many different roles, and can’t pick a favorite. Some roles I’ve really enjoyed are: the head of HR disciplining a misbehaving but valued employee; a mother or aunt punishing a young family member; a governess reminding a college student that they are still under her watch; a teacher teasing and tormenting a plagiarizing student.
Chances are, if you’ve heard of it, I’ve done it. If you have something you’d like to try, let me know. But be aware of the role play scenarios I don’t do (listed below).
Do you allow age-play in role-play scenarios?
Yes. Some of my favorite role-plays have age regression as a basis.
Are there role-plays you don’t like or don't do?
I’m not interested in role-plays involving authority figures like police or military.
I absolutely will not partake in any role play that includes race-play, nor do I participate in role-play that involves a sexual component.
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