Domestic discipline can be defined as accountability with consequences.

It’s a familiar pattern: you decide something needs to change; you take some steps towards it; it becomes too difficult to keep going; without support or accountability, you let yourself fail. Repeat.

If only you had someone to hold you accountable.


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The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago. The second best time is now.

You have have things you want to achieve: eat better; go to the gym more regularly; be more assertive at work; get control over a personal project that has lost its way. You haven’t been doing what you really need to do. 

Maybe you’re thinking, “I don’t need help, I need to just do it.” But if you could just do it, wouldn’t you have done it already? There’s no shame in asking for help.

Feeling like you should have moved towards your goal already can be a huge source of guilt. And sometimes that guilt is enough to keep you from moving forward.

Let’s do something about that.

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When you’re only accountable to yourself, it’s easy to make excuses.

But when you know there’s someone who you’ll have to report your progress to, it becomes so much more important to make that progress happen.

Check-ins on your progress, on how you’re doing with those planned and charted milestones, is instrumental to your success. A goal with a deadline of “someday” is a dream, not a goal.

If you’re succeeding, that success can be its own reward. If you’re failing, there will be consequences.

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I don’t accept excuses. “Do or do not: there is no ‘try.’”

When you and I make an agreement, as to your behavior in achieving your goal, you’re now accountable not only to yourself, but to me, and I really don’t like being disappointed.

My work as a disciplinarian has given me the tools and skill to deal with your failures. Your punishment will be fair, and metered to you, your situation, your tolerance, your body, your mind; before you go over my knee, we will discuss your limits, and I will not violate those limits. 

Make no mistake: though I will temper your punishment to suit your needs, it will still be punishment. It will hurt. You will not like it. 

But that’s exactly the point.

A consequence without bite isn’t a consequence but an inconvenience. And no one ever improved their behavior from a mere inconvenience.

Punishment gives you a clean slate. You’ve done wrong and received punishment for it. You’re free from the guilt and the weight of that wrong: your error has been paid for. With this freedom and levity, you may find yourself renewed, willing and able to pursue the very things you couldn’t in the past. 

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